Case Studies: “Entitled” Women Attack “Toxic” Men
The dominant contemporary moral framework defines women as morally superior to men. Many people consider this attitude to be due to the millennia of men believing the opposite about women. The theory is that current men are benefiting from the centuries-long patriarchy that can only be corrected by an imposition of the opposite conceit. One is left to wonder if it will take 5,000 years of this correction to finally “balance the scales” of “gender justice.”
Attacking and Humiliating the Men in their Lives
Regardless, this belief has led to numerous cases of women (often wives) humiliating the men in their lives in highly public ways. The perpetrators clearly feel “entitled” by their designated social superiority to behave in this manner. I suppose they think that this cruelty is a part of the retributive justice necessary for the historic prejudice of men to be corrected. In reality they are destroying their own most intimate relationships and sowing distrust, angst and disorder among the general population.
This situation first clearly lit up on my radar when Victoria Bissell Brown’s tirade against all men, definitely including her husband of 50 years, for the outcome of the Bret Kavanaugh affair was published by the Washington Post. The following short excerpts provide a sampling of this woman’s uncontrollable, vicious rage.
This was 30 minutes of from-the-gut yelling. Triggered by a small, thoughtless, dismissive, annoyed, patronizing comment. Really small. A micro-wave that triggered a hurricane. I blew. Hard and fast. And it terrified me. I’m still terrified by what I felt and what I said. I am almost 70 years old. I am a grandmother. Yet in that roiling moment, screaming at my husband as if he represented every clueless male on the planet (and I every angry woman of 2018), I announced that I hate all men and wish all men were dead.
Although I don’t have any first-hand knowledge about the inner-dynamics of her marriage, the following description of her husband’s response is telling.
My husband of 50 years did not have to stifle a laugh. He took it dead seriously. He did not defend his remark, he did not defend men. He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened. For a moment, it occurred to me to be grateful that I’m married to a man who will listen to a woman. The winds calmed ever so slightly in that moment. And then the storm surge welled up in me as I realized the pathetic impotence of nice men’s plan to rebuild the wreckage by listening to women.
Is it out of line for me, a mere man, to conclude that Victoria Bissell Brown’s behavior was infantile, cruel and deranged? Is it impermissible to point out that her seeking out of a publisher for this screed entailed utter contempt for the feelings of her husband? Also, am I being unfair to notice that her self-described behavior ironically confirms the male prejudice that women are over-emotional? To sum up, is Victoria Bissell Brown above criticism by a man because she is a woman? It’s time to firmly answer No! to all of these questions.
There have been other less extreme but still troubling examples of this same dynamic since then. For example:
Toxic masculinity—and the persistent idea that feelings are a “female thing”—has left a generation of straight men stranded on emotionally-stunted island, unable to forge intimate relationships with other men. It’s women who are paying the price.
Even Good Husbands Are Sexist. Here’s What I Did About Mine.
Entitlement to Spit in the Face of a Man
Recently Eric Trump was in Chicago and went to a high end bar. What happened next would be beyond belief had I not lived through the past decade (emphasis added).
Shortly after Eric Trump had arrived at Aviary, an upscale bar in Chicago on Tuesday night, a young female employee walked up to him and spit in his face. According to Breitbart, an eyewitness said the woman “murmured inaudibly something that sounded like it was anti-Trump.”
ABC5 Chicago’s Mary Ann Ahern reported that the offender was immediately handcuffed and taken into custody by Trump’s Secret Service agents. She was later released after Trump declined to press charges.
This was a clear case of assault, but given the cultural circumstances no charges were filed. To her credit the new mayor of Chicago criticized this act. I will be stunned if there is significant criticism from the Progressives about this woman’s behavior. In their moral universe this is just the act of a victim fighting back against one of her oppressors (see the above cited Washington Post oped).
In a sane world this deranged employee would have been fired on the spot and hauled before a court to account for her assault. But, apparently since she can claim the role of a “victim” and the real victim of this assault was a Progressive “enemy,” nothing of the kind has occurred. Please pardon me if I draw conclusions about the true moral standing of the Progressive movement based on this and the previous case.
I can almost understand how the secular culture could have come to believe that men are inherently worse than women, but it is a theological scandal that the same has occurred in Christianity. When the Apostle Paul, quoting multiple Psalms, wrote in Romans that:
“There is no one righteous, not even one;
there is no one who understands;
there is no one who seeks God.
All have turned away,
they have together become worthless;
there is no one who does good,
not even one.”
“Their throats are open graves;
their tongues practice deceit.”
“The poison of vipers is on their lips.”
“Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness.”
“Their feet are swift to shed blood;
ruin and misery mark their ways,
and the way of peace they do not know.”
“There is no fear of God before their eyes.” (Romans 3:10-18 NIV).
he is making a universal declaration regarding the human condition. Thus, we are all, male and female, under the same curse of sin. Yes, men and women tend to manifest this common sinfulness in different ways. But the underlying condition is exactly the same. And yet we have not just tolerated, but in many cases actually encouraged feminist theology that claims moral superiority for women and moral depravity for men.
The Christian Church has thus in many cases surrendered itself to the dominant secular ideologies running rampant in our culture. It should rather be a confident, faithful beacon of truth that opposes the soul-destroying beliefs sadly personified by Victoria Bissell Brown and her sisters in misandry.
There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28, NIV)